WEEK SUMMARY 5 | Taking the road less traveled | There is no limit in life | Time to party and enjoy

This week I didn’t focus on my work as other weeks. With doing this I created more space for deep insights to come my way in pleasant and not so pleasant ways. What also happened this week is that I had a confrontation with the person who made me look into the deep parts of my soul, I had a revelation how ‘big’ Lightworks can be AND I got confirmed again that I belong to live ‘on the road’ as a true minimalist & digital nomad. 

Friday – The minimalistic lifestyle 

I love this surf spot in New Zealand where I am. After my walk and meditation on the beach I got confirmed what I already know: I’m not a city girl. Where I truly feel at home is in nature. The fact that everything that I bought or brought with me fits in two drawers makes me even more happy. In this trip I discovered that I don’t need more than this. Yesterday I hiked through the mountains and I’m still feeling gratitude and joy from being there and seeing the amazing views.

You can make your life as beautiful as you want it to be. Ten years ago I didn’t know who I was, what my dreams or mission was. I started at the university because my grandmother told me that a degree is like your passport: it can take you to places where you otherwise would not get to. After graduating this is exactly what my degree did. I landed two jobs in the best consultancy firms and I got depressed and burned out. In the years after I learned the art of living and to be happy and grateful for my life. This is what I’m still doing. I’m very grateful for the life I get to live and that I’ve always had people around me who believed and supported me.

What a beautiful life!

Saturday – Digital nomad in action 

Today I’m still recovering from the birthday party I went to from the sun of the couple that I’m staying with. His party was so well organised that it felt like a small festival. It had an amazing theme that I’m not telling you, because I’m keeping it in mind for future events. In the evening there was another party. And even though I still don’t know what St. Patricks Day is about I had a blast. Between talking, dancing and drinking water with lemon I also had three coach session on Skype. For one of my clients it was the first time to have a session with me on Skype and she told me after that I was just as effective as life. That’s always great to hear back.

Seeing the development of the people I coach is amazing and never bores me. Each one of them – having to deal with being burned out, depression or just want to be better – had breakthroughs. All the people we are coaching have an enticing prospect to do things different and REALLY want to change this now. And everybody gets to deal with inner critic (Can I do this? Who is waiting for me? Will I make it financially?) and this is where I come in and break through. Because everything is possible if you go for it, love yourself, learn to thrust, ask for help and push through.

I plan to live my life the way this family is doing (including making money, getting and raising children on the road). Even if people think it’s impossible: I believe it is possible and that as long as I can imagine something it can happen. That is the first step to manifestation.

Sunday –  I am bountiful, blissful, beautiful


Today I had an quiet day after two days of partying and lots of Skype calls. At the ‘farmers market’ I bought ingredients for my goodbye dinner. I made it a habit and a way of saying thanks to the family I got to stay with to prepare dinner for them which always includes my secret tofu recipe. This is always a hit, even with meat eaters. That evening I enjoyed the meal with the whole family (three generations!).

Today I also received more photographs from the photo shoot in Bali – with the jewelry -. Looking at these pictures I notice that I truly value how I look instead of just settling with my looks. If this is something interesting to you I will write more about this in a separate blog, so keep checking my blog.

Monday – Limitless thinking 

In my morning walk and meditation on the beach I had a vision: Lightworks is going to be just as big as Ikea. It might sound crazy, but I believe it’s possible! The world needs more love and light. At this moment we are living in a extreme humanitarian crisis. We talk about refugees and environmental problems, but there is a crisis we are not seeing. People are mostly led by fear and not by love. One in five people on the world is dealing with mental problems, one in three women is sexually assaulted before she is 18 and one in ten children is sexually abused. These are just a few indicators. If you read this you also think there is a lot more work to do, right?! I believe that love is the answer, solution and medicine.

By creating my book, documentary and eventually show in theaters about love I contribute to spreading love. The first step is becoming aware of how you handle and interact with yourself and other people. I’m ready to start building my next ‘baby’ and Lightworks Empire.

The morning was stormy. Luckily it cleared up in the afternoon so we could hike in the mountains and experience breathtaking views. On moments like this when I’m surrounded by amazing nature I really wonder why people live in cities. You will find me on the beach and in the mountains everyday if I was living here. What a beauty! 

Tuesday – Am I enough? 

In my life I experienced two moments where the fierce reaction of good friends shocked me. Especially because their reaction was based on a very incomplete image of reality and more based on interpretations and projections. Today I experienced this same fierceness again because of a (in my eyes innocent) incident with a friend.

Why do these situations get to me so much? I think because in all these incidents I mean no harm and the reaction of the other person makes me doubt my own intentions. Why does this get to me? I think because I’m trying so hard to be good and/or right. It’s tedious when it is experienced in the opposite way AND I get blamed for something that in my mind I don’t deserve. The pain I experience results from that I only think (unconsciously) I’m good enough when I achieve things. The question now is: Am I allowed to completely be myself with my beauty and flaws without the need to achieve? I think when I learn this lesson completely the situation will not touch me as much anymore. In short: I’m well on my way to becoming a human BE-ing in stead of a human DO-ing and now get to challenge my destructive patterns on a deeper level.

Next to all the ‘soul searching’ I also have a business to run. I used to only work with people on a project base, but now this is shifting to working together with a permanent team. It’s interesting to observe their different attitudes. Some want to take over everything to the point where I have no idea anymore what is exactly happening and others are struggling with the idea of providing an integral approach to our clients. I never worked together like this with talented and driven people with who we can really achieve crazy results. I love the development of the Lightworks team and our clients. What a blessing to be part of this!

Wednesday – Crossing the world for love 

Today was a travel day again. I never really like these days because I have to pack and think about the ‘small things’. I once forgot my phone at home and another time I didn’t print my tickets (because nobody ever asks for them) and I had to show them. Today I was especially tense. Because of my arrival time nobody was coming to pick me up and I had to look for the apartment of my friend on my own.

Before leaving I went to get my favorite lunch at my favorite lunchroom. I got talking about love and discovered that both of the girls working there moved to New Zealand for love. I happened to have my camera with me and they agreed to be interviewed for my book and documentary ‘Expedition Self Love’. Every time I speak with somebody about their experiences I feel such a rush. How does Floortje Dessing makes money with doing the two things she loves: travelling and talking (making contact) with people? This is something I’m researching at the moment. It would not mean that I won’t coach, advise or train people anymore. It just means that I can decide how much time I spend on this without it having financial consequences for me. To be continued.

Thursday – Reconstruction 

Before being dropped off at the airport my friend drove me around Christchurch. This city is 20 minutes from where I stayed this week and the effects of a fiercely earthquake 6 years ago are still visible. There were building sites everywhere, some parts were still in ruin and in other parts there were a lot of cranes and buildings in scaffolding. They were rebuilding the city and I connected with this. I feel I’m rebuilding myself after a heavy tsunami. I’m very proud of what I experienced during and mostly after this tsunami: The joy in life, the energy, being rooted, the focus, the guts, a purpose and that my inner compass (head and heart connection) is working again!

There are a couple of things that I’m still ‘rediscovering’. With practical stuff on areas that are not my expertise. Details and technique I resist and they can frighten me. It was a challenge to ‘Uber’ from the airport. My inner critic kept feeding my fear. I stood outside of the airport for 30 minutes thinking if it was less ‘scary’ to use public transport or ‘Uber’. Most people I know experience this with big question in life and not for simple activities as using ‘Uber’ or not. For the big questions I don’t have fear and this lead to where I am now and what I’ve done in my life. I’m immensely proud and grateful for all that I did. I will keep working on finding what I lost, cleaning what opened up and building what suits my natural beauty. One thing I know for sure: I’m exactly where I need to be.