Week 11 | The 6-hour workday is alive | New love in sight | It was all too much

Honored. That’s how I felt when I was asked to talk about a subject that totally fits me by journalist from well-known papers and magazines. Unfortunately this distracted me from my spiritual and emotional development. O, o, o, this was about to go wrong again and it called for action! What was my action? I will tell you this in this week summary.

Friday – Why they don’t do what I want

A couple of weeks now I’ve been puzzled. Last winter I started lots of new projects and business initiatives. But the people I was working with didn’t give it everything they got. Not only with taking action, but also with delivering highest possible quality. Today, on my Shanti-day, I had the time to think about this and realized why most of the people I work with deliver jobs that can be higher in quality or done quicker. To me it has to do with three things:

1) The matter of commitment and priority

If they would be working on their own project they probably did find those spelling errors or made sure that the right people got the email. And they would not have used ‘being busy’ as an excuse to deliver quality.

2) Limited way of thinking in chain and focused on the customer

A lot of times we take action but don’t look at what results have the biggest impact. And that by working together and forming a synergy in the process of creating we could realize more impact.

3) The matter of empathy and being pro-active

Not everybody can work on the level that is needed to add the optimal value. Some people are not able to see the big picture and need to be micro-managed. When this happens too much it’s smarter to do it yourself, relocate tasks and/or find other people to work with.

Let’s go to more committed, customer focussed, empathic and pro-active way of working.

This day I spend mostly inside wearing my bathrobe apart from a short walk. I did some cleaning, clearing and paid bills. A day to rest. Which was just what I needed in all this busyness.

Saturday – Enjoying and feeling free: there’s no need for more

“Before I started with this I felt lost and look at me now: full of energy and beautiful plans.” This is what the client said this afternoon in his last coaching session of his personalized-transformation-trajectory. I always love this last session, especially the ones at the end of a long-term trajectory. This man has a successful business and an amazing family. Somehow he got in a severe burn-out. I’m so proud that we got to tribute with our team of LightWorkers (all with the same mind set, but with different skills) to his recovery, re-discovering his life energy and his soulful actions.

The last two weeks I withdrew myself to create order in my life. After all the hard work I’ve done I thought it was well deserved to enjoy a beautiful beach party. I loved dancing to the music and being crazy. How I missed this!

Before I started travelling a lot (last spring, summer and autumn) every week I was dancing salsa. I realized that I should be doing this again. It’s very good for me to do something fun and light every week where I don’t have to try and where I can just follow my heart. Just enjoying the music, the people around me and move freely. I love it.

Sunday – What am I doing this for?

This morning was tough. I took a good look at how I was all over the place all the time and I saw that I was not taking care of myself. It feels like I stagnated the growth that I was on for the last year. At this moment I only have one commitment in my life and that is to meditate every day for a thousand days. In the last days I WANTED to, but I was just too tired. Once I fell asleep on my yoga mat before I even started. It saddens me that I do everything in my power to create beautiful projects for ‘the better good’ and that I apparently think that it’s normal to completely sacrifice and forget about myself. That’s not meant to happen!

The picture I’m painting here is not aligned with the idea of ‘Verlicht Werken’ or ‘LICHTpuntjes’. This saddened me and I arrived at the 3th ‘LICHTpuntjes’ meeting in a sad mood. The other team member really surprised me. One by one they told me why they joined ‘LICHTpuntjes’ and this made me happy. I was almost crying of happiness. It was a magical day and I know that our fifth edition of the ‘LICHTpuntjes’ festival on 16th of September 2017 will be as well. Are you coming?

Just before I went to bed I reflected on my experiences of the day and concluded that I was finally ready to grow up. Which to me means:

*Keeping myself ‘clean’ of blame, shame and regret (of others)

*Surf the waves of life

*Be in a committed relationship with a man and have children

*Harvest everything that I planted in the last years

*Put myself first and be my own #1

Monday – My first six hour workweek of this year is a fact!

Exactly one week ago I committed to a six hour workweek (the hours I was making in one day was crazy some days). A famous writer wrote an article about how being busy is for losers in NRC (a dutch newspaper). I have to confess that since coming back from my workation I have been a loser. I took too much on and a couple of weeks ago I started feeling the consequences of this.

I’m proud of myself that with the amount of projects, client trajectories and new initiatives I succeeded in working a maximum of six hour every day.

I’m also very happy how are Surinamese cookbook is coming together. One of the designers send me possible fronts for the book and another is working on sketching the rest. An amazing team is working on creating and shaping the Happy & Healthy @ Home cookbook and on 24th of June you can see, touch and experience what we have been working on! Until the 24th of June you can pre-order your copy with €10,00 discount (you’ll receive the digital and hard copy of the cookbook). The book is filled with healthy and delicious recipes, practical tips and interesting facts for everybody who likes good food. Everything to balance you yin and yang. Do you want a taste of this? Order your Happy & Healthy @ Home cookbook and ticket to the Foodparty here: https://www.facebook.com/events/1292455154207826/

Today I was also asked for an interview with Intermediair (a dutch magazine)! I’m happy with how this nice interview turned out. It’s going to be online on Wednesday.

Tuesday – Reflection is sexy

Last week I spoke with about adding a tantra workshop and horse coaching session in the trajectory of one the people I coach. Both of these methodologies help people to move from their head to feeling in their heart and body. Not a lot of people know about tantra and think that’s sexual. Which it is definitely not! The teacher of my favorite tantra teacher wrote:

“Tantra teaches to be total, to be spontaneous, innocent, wild, authentic… in whatever you are doing. This is also in lovemaking. But our mind is very tricky and interpret everything. And our mind is sick basically so it pervert everything. And then lovemaking is no more innocent and authentic. If you move in lovemaking with sacredness, you will realize that lust is going away by and by. And that a new energy rises in you. You are going to become more true, more in touch with your body. So lovemaking is going to be more deep and also more wild. But maybe not a wildness that you know. More a wildness that belongs to your true energy. Enjoy your body and the flow of your energy with sacredness…. and sacredness doesn’t mean that you are not sexual! You can be in your sexuality with totality. Sex is sacred!”

It’s amazing to read, feel and share this perspective on tantra!

Wednesday – The clearing continues

I think that for the last 1,5 weeks I’ve been focusing on clearing and cleaning. I have the feeling it’s resulting in having more and more insights and taking action again to create.

It feels like my strength is returned fully. I’m no longer guided by the suffering of others and I stopped suffering. No, I’m taking control and the lead. I know where I’m going and I’m doing it. And everything comes from finally finding my true love! Who is this new love? Me! I’ve known it was me for a while already but since today I’m feeling it in every fiber of my being! That is an amazing feeling.

Thursday – Creating space

I didn’t have many appointments this week for coaching, working together with project members or business partners. It was the best week to really create order and space. I needed to organize and order my base. I’m halfway in everything that I need to ‘de-clutter’, pay and send invoices and taxes.

Today I had a Skype chat with my dad for the first time since he emigrated to Suriname. It has been a month and I can’t wait to visit him and work together on his projects. My plan is to go out there in the winter and stay for a couple of months with him in his small house in the countryside. To hike in the jungle and end up sitting on a rock for hours and staring across the river. To really relax and ‘re-connect’ with nature. I might actually do this, who knows! To be continued.

It’s a good thing that this week was more laid back. The next couple of days are packed because I have to finish a couple of things before I go to America. In America I’m going to give workshops about radical honesty and self-love. Two major building blocks that changed my life for the better. I look forward to being in LA, Venice, again. It’s a place with inspiring and close communities where they organize workshops and events that are ‘next level’. Next to this I’m also going to enjoy the sun, sea and beach. I look forward to getting in that flow again. LA, here I come!