Love is all you need
I think I’ve become really spoiled. VERY spoiled. Maybe I am even addicted to it. Addicted to a true connection: a connection with a person that is loving, kind, true and sooths the soul. I am so used to talking to chatting to random strangers on the street, at festivals in public transport, during my travels and sometimes even in beach clubs and lunchrooms. For years now I’ve been meeting loads of wonderful people. People who I call ‘Sparks of LIGHT’(aka LICHTpuntjes) and/ or HEARTworking people.
SPREAD THE LIGHT
Who are these people and what is different or unique about them. Sparks of LIGHT are for me people that shine so bright as the sun. Their inner light is so powerful or is beaming so hard that you can’t miss it. You can see it in their eyes (for starters). They embrace life at is comes and truly enjoy it. A lot of these ‘Sparks of LIGHT’ have told me why they are so radiant. We’ve clustert their answers in the 10 ‘Shine factors’ http://on.fb.me/1o5T8gl (STRAALfactoren). But the biggest reason of all is that a lot of them do what they love. I’ve called that HEARTworking (HARTwerken).
HEARTworking is following your heart wherever it takes you and fulfilling your (work)life with passion. It’s action that stems from meaning. Experimenting and learning while creating true value (together). “Als het hart klopt, dan komt de beweging vanzelf” Citaat Koen Bugter
FLOWBLOCKERS
I think I’ve become a little bit to daring: lately I’ve also started chatting to strangers that where not particularly shiny or had a good energy and that was an absolute flow-blocker. It all happened this week: in the train, at a VIP Dinner with Ricardo Semler (that’s a guy who truly works from the heart) and in the tram. I’ve approached hundreds of people that I’ve never met before in the past four years, all around the world. So what’s different, why are these three people flowblockers to me?
By the way, you know what flow is right? If not I love the definition of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi: “Flow is the mental state of operation in which a person performing an activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity. In essence, flow is characterized by complete absorption in what one does.”
BEING INTIMATE
But what is so terrible about not having a connection with all the people you meet and/ or talk to? And why am I even reflecting on this? I think it’s mainly because I’ve started dating again AND business wise have been more focused on acquisition. It seems to be working very well since I’ve met a lot of ‘new’ people. Especially the men that I’ve met intrigue me a lot. Most of them are open to connect, NOT superficially but on a deeper level. Business wise this means that they (most of them are CEO’s of big corporations) show me that they appreciate my presence, my wisdom (due to experience), my stories and my way of working. They materialise this into being committed to working together. The men that I’ve met on a personal note tell me their most intimate stories, struggles and deepest longings and desires. I’ve seen some of these man –business wise and personally- struggle in our conversations. When I asked them for more information and to go deeper into the subject (their inner world – the land where all the answers are) they struggle to find answers to my questions because they have never been ‘there’. Others that don’t even want to take our conversation to a next level seem have a thick layer made of stone around them and are like fossils to the outside world. Maybe they don’t even know how to open up and connect on a deeper level anymore. That child-like and free spirited part of them self seems to have faded or will only appear at exceptional circumstances.
HIGH ON LIFE
Anyway… in the moment that we do connect on a deeper level we exchange information that truly matters and we open our hearts to each other, that’s when I feel we are connected the energy flows freely. I love those moments. That’s when meaningful experiences emerge and beauty is created, magical. There is only thing that is more important to me than those moments of true connection is being and staying connected to mySELF. Not every now and than, but also when everything around me changes, when life seems unfair or feels difficult, when there are beautiful distractions around me seducing me to leave the path that is made for me. I would love to feel more and think less. I want to be able to take responsibility for my (business)life without thinking about it to much. I want to ‘lose’ my head, follow my heart and my bliss. I would love to be able to ‘jump in the river’ and just see where life itself takes me. To truly let go and feel the flow.
